H₃rḗǵs h₁n̥dʰéri diwsú
What a cool dad.
On female chastity — There is something quite amazing and monstrous about the education of upper-class women. What could be more paradoxical? All the world is agreed that they are to be brought up as ignorant as possible of erotic matters, and that one has to imbue their souls with a profound sense of shame in such matters until the merest suggestion of such things triggers the most extreme impatience and flight. The “honor” of women really comes into play only here: what else would one not forgive them? But here they are supposed to remain ignorant even in their hearts; they are supposed to have neither eyes nor ears, nor words, nor thoughts for this—their “evil”; and mere knowledge is considered evil. And then to be hurled, as by a gruesome lightning bolt, into reality and knowledge, by marriage—precisely by the man they love and esteem most! To catch love and shame in a contradiction and to be forced to experience at the same time delight, surrender, duty, pity, terror, and who knows what else, in the face of the unexpected neighborliness of god and beast!
Thus a psychic knot has been tied that may have no equal. Even the compassionate curiosity of the wisest student of humanity is inadequate for guessing how this or that woman manages to accommodate herself to this solution of the riddle, and to the riddle of a solution, and what dreadful, far-reaching suspicions must stir in her poor, unhinged soul—and how the ultimate philosophy and skepsis of woman casts anchor at this point!
Afterward, the same deep silence as before. Often a silence directed at herself, too. She closes her eyes to herself.
Young women try hard to appear superficial and thoughtless. The most refined simulate a kind of impertinence.
Women easily experience their husbands as a question mark concerning their honor, and their children as an apology or atonement. They need children and wish for them in a way that is altogether different from that in which a man may wish for children.
In sum, one cannot be too kind about women.”
My mother told me the story (with the caveat that she didn't know if it was true, since she'd only heard it herself) of a young woman, raised in utter ignorance of sexual matters as often happened back then, getting married and fleeing back to her mother on her wedding night, shocked and outraged, saying "You've married me to a monster! You can't even begin to imagine what horrible perverted thing he wanted to do to me!" Then the mother had to explain to her that it was in fact normal...
LCF & Pacifica, here's my next book post that you two inspired me to post:LCF & Pacifica, you both are promoted for inspiring my next book post in the "What Are You Reading" thread. Out of the literally dozens of books in my library, it's one of the more controversial books that I've read.
I've finished Felix's work so now I'll start the other one: https://d.lib.rochester.edu/teams/publication/staley-the-book-of-margery-kempe
This is from the aforementioned book:I've finished Felix's work so now I'll start the other one: https://d.lib.rochester.edu/teams/publication/staley-the-book-of-margery-kempe